A few days back I read in the newspaper that a husband was so
much in love with his wife that he kept her under house arrest for
fifteen years. During these years he did not allow her to step out of
the house, he neither allowed her to wear new clothes nor allowed her
to mix with their own relatives. The husband was worried that the wife
might fall for someone else and might desert him. True love doesn't
keep loved one in captivity. True love never forces itself upon other
by saying, "I am in love with you so even you have to love me". That
person's ego exercises such coercion.
Genuine love never expects anything. It does not demand, " I have
done these things for you. Hence you have to do so and so things for
me." This demand is a type of give and take. An account of each and
every good deed done is kept and then it is insisted that he/she return
those favors. This persistence has no place in the genuine love. When
you love someone, you must do everything that makes him/her happy. When
you look at his/her delighted face, you feel contented.
Do not put any conditions in love. Do not put a prerequisite
like" He loves me only if he buys me diamonds." Many couples spend
their entire lives in a loveless relationship. God does not bless each
with true love. God has selected only you. It means that you are so
fortunate!
If we are ourselves not ready to give in ourselves totally then
what is the point in seeking real love? If we intend to keep love in
rules and regulations then why to pray to god for it?
Let the days be of spring or let it be a stormy night, love means
only giving. Pleasure and pain are parts of life. The tiny seedling of
love that began growing in happy days, one should not uproot it if
difficulties arise. Happy days pass fast but that is real love that
stands with the loved one during sorrow.
Any disaster can fall. It can be loved one losing a limb in an
accident or he/she getting fired from the job or anything else. He/she
is already sad. Do not leave him/her in this grief. Maybe you may have
to work hard. Maybe you may have to change your easy life style but
miseries will bring you closer than the happiness.
There is no place for jealousy and hatred in true love. Trust
him/her totally. Nobody knows if there is life after death. No one can
guarantee the next life. Whatever we have is in this life. This is the
only golden chance we have got. Let's not waste it. So many days we
have been thinking, "I love him/her but he/she does not love me."
Let's change the way we think. Let's start thinking this way, "He/she
also loves me with heart and soul but his/her way of expressing is
different than what I expect from him/her."
From today let's change our definition of real love. Let's do
away with all the rules that we have laid down for true love. Let's
stop keeping account of what we do for the loved one. Let's stop
expecting the loved one to balance this balance sheet of chores. If we
do this, then our life will be blissfully happy………no doubt about it.
Author: Sanyukta Chitnis
About the author or the publisher
Sanyukta Chitnis is a freelance writer. She can be contacted at san3chitnis@rediffmail.com
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